For many women, the stage of life when they are trying to conceive is a happy and exciting time. They pour over “what to expect when expecting” kinds of articles, chart ovulation, and window shop for adorable baby outfits. For women with uterine fibroids, however, this might not be the case, since some women with uterine fibroids have trouble conceiving.
The Emotional Rollercoaster of Trying to Conceive
If you want to be a mother, and are trying to become a mother, but have so far been unsuccessful, seeing ads for baby equipment or witnessing the joy of pregnant co-workers can make you want to crawl into a hole. The world is full of people talking about how wonderful mothers are, and how amazing their mother is, and how incredible it is to be a mother, and all you can think is: I want this, too. Why am I left out?
While uterine fibroids do not necessarily interfere with a woman’s ability to conceive, they could – especially if the fibroid is hanging into the uterine cavity. Uterine fibroids can appear in a few different forms in different areas of and around the uterus.
Conceiving after Infertility
There are few joys greater than holding your baby in your arms after you’ve waited for him for a long, long time. The harder the path was to get to that moment, the more appreciation and gratitude you have for it when it arrives. Motherhood is not a role you ever take for granted.
The positive side of things is to remember that having uterine fibroids does not mean you can’t get pregnant, it only means it may be more difficult and you may need to deal with the fibroids first in order to conceive and carry a healthy pregnancy forward.
Positive thought has a lot of power in keeping up your spirits. Dr. Carrie Jones gives five suggestions in how to stay positive:
1. Take time for yourself every day, even if it’s only 5-10 minutes.
2. Journal about your life.
3. Hang notecards reminding yourself of your strengths and good thoughts
4. Remember your relationship. Have a date night, surprise each other.
5. Eliminate negativity
Fostering Meaning in Your Life
Being a mother is – at its heart – the ability to give life to another. While not all of us are mothers in the traditional sense, we all do have within us the ability to care for other human beings. Sometimes that life takes physical form, as when we give food or funds to impoverished individuals. Sometimes that life takes emotional form, as when we give empathy, strength and hope to people going through a hard time.
If this sounds like too big a project, either because your finances are low, your schedule is tight or you just don’t have the energy, start small. Even a simple smile can pick up others on a tough day, when the smile comes from your heart. A plate of baked goods in the lounge at work will bring lots of positivity, especially on a tough Monday.
Try to appreciate the lifegiver within you, however it manifests in your life now. Recognize your accomplishments and pat yourself on the back. Loving and appreciating who you are will make you a better mother when your time does come. Remember – don’t lose faith right away if you are experiencing fertility issues due to firbroids. Empower yourself! Consult your doctor.
And to all those hoping to become mothers in the traditional sense, we wish for you that your hopes become a reality.